No matter how deep, no matter how long, does it ever really heal if we just “give it some time”?

Time heals all wounds! You’ll get better. Just give it some time.

I am sure we all hear this advice A LOT, but does time really heal all wounds?

No. That couldn’t be true because it has been years and the pain is still glued to my soul.

Some would be more than willing to testify that time doesn’t really help cure the pain. Physical pain? Yes. But emotional pain? Many would disagree.

One particular pain that people can’t seem to move on from is the pain of losing someone close to their hearts. That shit really stings down to the core and it is by far one of the most unbearable emotional pain one could ever go through. 

When we lose someone and people try to pull the ‘time heals all wounds’ string on us, our initial thought would of course be about how absurd this advice is. We’d think that they are just saying this because they have nothing left to say that could make us feel any better. Or that they just still want to give us hope and make us believe that eventually we’ll be okay even though we know and we are sure deep down that we can never ever really heal from the pain. However, no matter how much we deny it, they are right. 

Time really does heal all our wounds, even the ones that are caused by losing someone. But we are so afraid of the fact that when we heal from the pain, we might actually forget and move on from the people that we lost so instead of letting it heal, we cut the wound open and then blame time for not doing its job.

Time heals all wounds. We just don’t allow it, for it is because of the pain that the people we lost gets to stay in us. Because, oh right! If we let time heal our wounds, then it is now possible for us to move on and we are now really gonna “lose them” forever and a part of us don’t want that to happen so we unconsciously just let the pain stay.

It’s not the time ‘not healing’ us from the pain, but our fear of actually ‘letting go’ that allows the pain to linger.

Time does heal all wounds. We don’t.

AUTHOR: KATHRESE CAGUITE

DATE WRITTEN:  JANUARY 2020